14 Feb 2016
One for the Singles
I was walking past a shop and saw a sign in the window saying "February 14th is Singles Awareness Day". The acronym was emphasised - S.A.D. A grand assumption, I thought to myself, that all single people must be sad. I guess it sparked the inspiration for today's impromptu newsletter. This one is for the singles!
There are so many ways to live a life, and often we get caught up in the collective idea of what's "normal". Our family's spoken and unspoken expectations of us can also be influential. If we can unplug from these expectations and ideas we have made our own, we free ourselves to follow our own hearts. We free ourselves to create an authentic life based on what feels good and right for us.
At the temple where I stayed last year, the view was held that if you were single and without children you were blessed. It meant that you were free to follow the spiritual path uncompromisingly. This was such a different view to the general response to being single, such as the above S.A.D. day. Being single gives you time to learn about yourself, what you value in life, work through issues that have kept you stuck and explore what makes your heart sing! A lot more time, energy and freedom to do as you please is in your hands.
And if you ARE searching for that special someone.......?
It is important not to look to another to fulfil your need for love. We all know that quote "You can't love another until you love yourself" I think we all know this quote so well because it's true.
Try this out. It will only take a minute!Ask yourself this question.... How would I FEEL if I was in a relationship with that special someone? Give yourself time to really imagine what you might feel and identify what the key thing is (i.e. feeling accepted, supported, loved, wanted, appreciated, needed....)Once you have your answer, then ask yourself "What can I do for myself that would help me to FEEL ........... NOW?"Can you make that action happen and give yourself that gift of attention?Does a certain peace begin to settle inside?
Releasing the NEED to be with someone is important so as not to bring the neediness into the relationship. Spiritual teacher Mooji answered a question about the persistent feeling one has of "needing" a partner. The most beautiful part of Mooji's response was;
Feel the freedom of your own Self.The completeness of your own Self.Then nothing will be in the way.
If you are struggling with neediness or this feeling somehow incomplete within yourself why not come in and treat yourself to a kinesiology balance. Once you reconnect to your deeper truth, energy flows freely, freeing up the whole of life to flow with greater ease. We all deserve to enjoy this life we have been given. Resting in the space of your truth, is like bathing in effortless peace. It is both spacious and alive, as though you are plugged into the creative source of life. From there opens that wonderful sense of possibility......
Enjoy your day and celebrate the love that you are!
Enjoy your day and celebrate the love that you are!